Since our adoption journey began, and even for a time before that, we've heard the word "No". We've heard it when we asked if there was an explanation for what was causing the recurrent miscarriages. We've heard it in response to some of the adoption grants we applied for. Today, we heard it for the first time from a birth mother.
"No" is a common response in the adoption process. There are so many families out there looking to adopt, so many families seeking financial aid, and so many specific (and highly individualized) preferences that birth mothers are looking for when they choose adoptive parents.
It would be easy to be overwhelmed by the "no's". We'll likely hear it many more times from birth mothers and agencies as we travel this adoption road. But we'll happily focus on the "yes's". We heard "yes" when we asked if an adoption consultant could help us navigate this complex process. We've heard "yes" from so many friends and family when we asked for your understanding and support.
And someday we'll hear the most important "yes", the one that means we've been chosen. For the time being, we just have to remember that there are so many "no's" because there is only one baby that is meant for us, and the joy of that "yes" will be greater than 1,000,000 "no's". After all, God has this! We’ve turned our family over to God and we have faith that He will grow it as He sees fit, in His perfect timing. It may be an adventure in patience and we may be overwhelmed at times, but in the end, it will all be worth it.