Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Girls 3, Boys 1

Our family is excited to announce that we are matched!  We feel very grateful this Thanksgiving week to have been chosen by a wonderful woman in Texas to provide a forever family for the little girl she is expecting in the spring of 2015.

That's right, we are going to be the proud parents of a little baby girl and Finnley is going to have the little sister she was hoping for! Finnley was incredibly excited to find out that the baby's due date is just 2 days after her own birthday!

Given our past experience, we know how quickly things can change during the adoption process - but for the same reasons we chose to share the news of our first match, we felt strongly that sharing the new of our current match was important.  We appreciate all the prayers and support as we continue on our adoption journey!  

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Our Gratitude

It has been 2 months since our adoption fundraiser (it's crazy how quickly time flies by!).  We are still in awe at the amazing generosity shown to us by all of our family and friends!  

We are incredibly grateful for ALL of the support we have received since starting our adoption journey.  

We especially want to thank our parents, who put so much time and effort into planning and organizing the fundraiser.  Also, a huge thank you to all of our donors, we were overwhelmed by the number of generous donations!  We appreciate all of the people who purchased raffle tickets, bid on silent auction items, joined us at the soup supper, and those who offered donations.  Thank you!

A special thank you to our friend, Renae, at Launder Life & Art, who managed to capture some amazing pictures of Chris and I for our adoption profile book....which is no small feat!  Also, thank you to Amanda, at Manda Julaine Designs, for creating the beautiful thank you card above and her work redesigning our blog.  

We raised enough money to cover the costs of our home study, the cost of printing our profile books for birth mothers to view, AND our initial application fees to the agency we are working with in Texas!  AMAZING!  

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Adoption Resuscitation

Several weeks ago, we were on our way to an infant CPR class in Waverly.  We were still reeling from our failed match, struggling with the idea of having to start again from the beginning, and saddened that we had been excited for a baby that never really existed.

We went into the small town library and joined a group of people familiar with the adoption process.  We saw some friendly faces that had been to our adoption fundraiser and met others from our Facebook adoption group face to face for the first time.  A few had recently finished their adoption process, some were waiting to be matched, and one couple had recently had a failed match, like us. 

We listened to the presenters and watched videos, we learned where to position our hands and how hard to press, and we were taught the differences between adult and infant CPR.  We laughed at the fact that the two songs that are the perfect tempo for CPR are "Stayin' Alive" and "Another One Bites the Dust," although the AMA prefers to promote the first for obvious reasons.  It felt good to be among people who were on the same road we were travelling.  We talked afterwards with everyone there about low points, high points, home studies, fundraisers, and birth mother visits.  We left with a renewed confidence that, despite our tragic setback, we were still on the right path. 

This was the first step in our adoption CPR.  We had called for help and gotten support from friends, family, and our consultant.  We pressed firmly on our adoption book to be presented to potential birth mothers, and we breathed new air into our commitment to find our baby.

It was a joy to hear a few weeks later that the other couple present at the training whose match had failed was rematched, and they now have their child home with them.  After having our own hearts broken, it's comforting to know that we can also keep our adoption hopes alive if we "press firmly" ahead and remember to "breathe" while we "wait for our (divine) help to arrive.”

Saturday, November 15, 2014

Holiday Spirit

We are getting into the holiday spirit early this year at the Bonfig household! 
We decided to try out a popular Pintrest idea leading up to Christmas.  We wrapped 24 children’s books for Finnley and she gets to open one book each night before bed.  We read the book together as a family and she gets to add lots of new books to her collection!  As a bit of a twist, we decided to start this early (on November 12th, actually).  Since she’s only at our house ½ of the time, this works out to equivalent of the normal advent calendar, but in terms of “Finnley Day’s” versus calendar days. 

Looks like most people on Pintrest actually do 25 Christmas books leading up to the holiday….but since we were starting so early, we went with a mix of different books from many of her favorite authors and subjects.  I LOVE the element of surprise added by wrapping each book, even though Chris and I both know all of the books under the tree, we never know which book will be opened on any given day!  Thus far, it’s been a huge hit with Finnley! 

Of course, our love of books made it difficult to limit ourselves to “just” 24 new books….  I think in the end we actually ended up with 38 books (whoops!).  We saved some of the longer books for actual Christmas presents, and then combined groups of books (pairing books that she can read by herself with books that she’ll need some help with) to get down to the 24 wrapped books/book sets under the tree. 

Here are a few of the books that we are looking forward to reading over the next few weeks! 

Monday, November 3, 2014

Our Design Unveil!

As you can see, we finally came through on our promise of a new look for the blog!  With the help of another adoptive mama (Amanda at Manda Julaine Designs), we have a fresh start for our blog AND our adoption journey.  

First, we want to thank Amanda for all the hard work she put into making our blog look more polished and user-friendly.  She does amazing design work and offers numerous services other than custom blog designs, including announcement cards, business designs, and lots of other add-on design services.  Check out her website for more information, she is wonderful to work with!

In regards to our adoption, we are back in the waiting phase, so there isn't much to report.  The last month has been tough, and we apologize for not updating more often, but we are back on track and have lots of things to post about as we move forward.  We'll *finally* have a proper thank you post from our fundraiser, we'll share some insights into what has happened over the past 6 weeks, and hopefully we will have good news to share again in the near future!  

We are confident that someday we will be able to look back at this process and see God's hand, even in the most difficult moments. We are excited to "reboot" our adoption journey and our blog to help keep us positive and focused on the end outcome:  OUR baby!  
.....and here is the obligatory Halloween costume picture!